Jeffrina Alisha Oakes

We're getting closer and closer!

2010-01-14T23:19:00.000-08:00

Baby's not here yet but she will be within the next week or so and I'm very excited. Asking everyone to keep us in your prayers because I found out about a week and a half ago that my iron was low and it must be up before I go into labor so I can go through with the water birth. I have been taking everything I possibly can and it has went up a great deal just still not where it needs to be. So its a blessing that she hasn't come yet she's giving mommy a chance to get it together!!! I know that all is working together perfectly for both of our good and that God's will is going to ultimately be done. My faith is working at its utmost high right now! I'm just grateful for everything and excited to meet my baby girl very very soon. Keep us in your prayers.

Sending Love and Light,

Jeffrina!!!!

Almost there....

2010-01-14T23:08:00.000-08:00

Here are all the GOD qualities everyone blessed the baby with at the shower:

LOVE
POWER
BEAUTY
JOY
HARMONY
JOY
PEACE
CREATIVITY
FAITH
WISDOM
INNOVATION
INFINITE LIGHT
COURAGE
GRACE
HARMONIZING GOOD
PROSPERITY
EASE
RADIANCE
TRUST
ESSENCE
LOVING KINDNESS
UNDERSTANDING
INFINITE ABUNDANCE
OVERFLOW
SPIRITUAL TRUTH
LAUGHTER
CREATIVE EXPRESSION
BALANCE
SUPPORT
OMNISCIENCE
CUTE
SMART
INTELLIGENT
PRETTY
FUNNY
HAPPINESS
LIFE
STRENGTH
WISDOM
CONFIDENCE
SAVANT
EASY FORGIVENESS

This is gonna be a powerful baby!!!!

2010

2010-01-03T21:25:00.000-08:00

HAPPY NEW YEAR...HAPPY NEW YOU!!!!!!

Sending peace love joy and many blessings to all those who have been an integrate part of this pregnancy and birth, through love, prayers, ideas and financial contributions. You all are such a gift to mines and my daughters life! We appreciate you and know that all is well and perfect for you and all u need is already here and now. And so it is. May you prosper in 2010 your best is yet to come! :)

Love and Light Always
Jeffrina Alisha

One More Thing

2009-12-24T11:05:00.000-08:00

OOh and how can i forget! I sang last night at wednesday service at Agape with the joy ensemble again and it was amazing!!!!!!! We did two songs and I must admit my body was saying no, no, no but i pushed through and sang my heart out anyway and it was so worth it. My mom told me people were crying! and everyone came up to me afterwards saying how powerful it was, so I'm just grateful in this moment for being able to express my gifts once again, touching others while healing myself at the same time. How wonderful :)

I'll post the video too!

Christmas Eve

2009-12-24T10:53:00.000-08:00

Merry Christmas Eve everyone!!!!

I am back to the blogging world after a week of shopping, planning, getting the house together, and making sure everything is ready for the birth and the baby. I'm still not completely done but everything is mellowing down. I'm not sure if I have everything I need but I'm pretty close so thank you again to all the wonderful people who have supported me during this time! I'm so grateful. Now with the holidays coming up I plan to stay home and relax. I'm gonna do a little more running around today and thats basically it. I'm at the point of feeling so ready right now!!! I can't wait to meet my babygirl! I know she will come when she is ready and its not up to me but my due date is 4 more weeks away and I pray she comes before then lol because this load is getting a little heavy. It just really hit me over the past week but I feel ready and its a great feeling i'm not even scared anymore! Shocking I know. I just know it will all be perfect from the birth, to motherhood, just everything! Wishing you all a merry merry christmas and knowing right where you are god is. Whatever you need or desire, its done! I am a witness of that for sure.

At the baby shower everyone hung God attributes for the baby to possess when she gets here on the blessing tree! Kim has been asking me to post them all for a week now, I promise i'll have those as soon as I get a chance to sort through all the flowers and words of wisdom. Until next time sending you love and light as always.

Jeffrina*

Amazing...Amazing...Amazing!!

2009-12-13T10:04:00.000-08:00

Last night was amazing, so amazing. I honestly enjoyed myself more than I have in a long time. So many people showed up to the baby shower to show their love and support and I was just overwhelmed with joy and gratitude. I had a big cheese on my face the whole night!! We sang, prayed, ate, laughed, talked, and celebrated the new edition to our family!!! JoyBaby! I am so supported and I know i have been blogging about all my worries but it just really made me realize I have nothing to be worried about. As people danced up to the blessing tree to hang their love offerings up I just wanted to cry. God is so good like how could I have ever even doubted whether or not the universe had my best interest in mind. Of course it does!!! I just want to thank every single person who offered themselves in such a beautiful way to make yesterday possible. Sandy for her willingness to put everything together so beautifully from the invitations to the food to the guestbook to the actual event, it would not have been possible without her and she sang to me and joybaby just like an angel from heaven!!! Thank you Jennia and Tina for cooking your delicious dishes made with so much love that everyone completely gobbled up. Thank you Kim for being so supportive and welcoming to me and nick and opening your home to us! And thank you Mom like wow for just driving me around making sure everything got done cooking your scrumptious spaghetti and sharing your words of wisdom. And last but not least my girls Yhanni, Olivia, and Britney who were right by my side the whole night and gave me words of wisdom all the times I have freaked out over stupid stuff! You guys are my rocks and me and Joybaby love you three so much!!! And Y that ice cream cake was on point!!!!! lol I have such an amazing family. Since my blood line are all 3000 miles away its such a blessing to have you all here to welcome me and show me so much love. My dad was so excited when I called and shared the news with him, he knows we're in good hands! And my grandparents oh my goodness I havent even talked to them yet about last night but I know they will be so happy. They have been my biggest support system my whole life and they jumped on the band wagon from the very beginniing even though they didnt even fully understand why I wanted a water birth in the first place. They gave the first contribution and since then we've just been on a roll. I'm so excited I am on this journey and though there have been many ups and downs I wouldn't change anything!!! Everything is happening perfectly, easily, and effortlessly!

Well I gotta go! Headed to Agape!
Love and Light!

Singing @ Agape

2009-12-11T17:39:00.001-08:00

Been wanting to post this for a while now. Here is the Agape Youth Sunday 11-22-09. Fast forward to 18 mins/44 secs to hear myself and the JOY Ensemble sing an original song written by me. :) I come out during the second verse pregnant belly and all can't miss me lol Enjoy

Busy Busy Busy

2009-12-11T10:42:00.000-08:00

So once again I must apologize for not being the most faithful blogger! But there literally has been sooooo much going on. Talk about time management. I've been pretty stressed but trying to take it easy because although I feel like I'm doing this alone. I know I'm not. Thank god for my mother who has been supporting me and helping me with everything. Me and nick have not been able to see eye to eye on anything which has been pretty hard and if I don't do what it takes to get everything prepared it just simply won't get done. We have the baby shower tomorrow which I must admit I was extremely nervous about because I never had anything thrown for me before.so I was freaking out about who would show up or if anyone would show up. Then I was just feeling crazy for even doing all this when I could have a hospital birth for free. But that's not what I want and I don't feel that's what my baby wants so I stopped being a crazy woman and calmed down. The baby shower is tomorrow and I know it will be perfecto! Whoever is supposed to be there will be and whoever is supposed to donate will donate. So I'm just letting go and giving it to god. Now I'm trying to get the birthing room ready and I have to purchase the birthing kit and all the supplies which is even more money.....But I went to see the midwives yesterday and I always feel a lot better simply meeting and talking to them. I was pretty disappointed that I missed my last birthing class last night but like I said her father and I just have too much drama right now and I could not go and sit in class for three hours acting like everything is fine when its just not. On a lighter note Rev Jo is doing my belly cast this month so I'm excited for that. When I really think about it I don't need to worry I have so many people who have decided to support me during this time and every single person has been a huge blessing. I don't know what I would do without you all. Last but not least I have one more week of school and two big finals coming up! So aside from everything else I gotta do what I gotta do and pass my classes. I have a final paper due on mOnday that I have been working on for a couple of days now and a final on tuesday and wednesday. Once this semester is over I can exhale and just solely focus on the baby without the long bus rides back and forth to and from school and all the homework. I plan to start back the end of february but this two month break is much much needed! I'm just really learning a lesson in balance at this time and its no joke.
Just have to keep repeating my mantra! Everything is happening easily and effortlessly. My heart goes out to women who have no one at all and are going thru what I'm going thru cuz its tough! All I can say is keep ya head up and it will all work out.

Love and light
Frina

Day Ten

2009-12-07T18:59:00.000-08:00

Hello everyone! I had a good day today but I feel beat now lol Hung out with the bestie brit which it was really great to have some girl time because everything has been planning planning planning and I was literally about to pull my hair out. I know im about to be a mom and have to raise this money but I'm human too and it feels good to just exhale and not have to take everything so seriously for a second. She treated me to a day of fun and relaxation, we ran some errands, and now i'm back home.And her and her grandmother gave me a purple camera as a gift today and its adorable. It was seriously right on time! Because I need to take pictures with everything coming up. Oh and shes having a baby too in february except shes having a boy. Yay mommys unite. Guess I'll just relax a little, listen to music, and go to bed. Soon as i figure out how to work the camera i'll post a lot of pics. Have a good night.

Day Nine

2009-12-06T21:04:00.000-08:00

Hello! Frina here. I'm at the house chillin out, listening to Rihanna, burning my guardian angel candle of peace and healing. I'm pretty energized, I took about a three hour nap of much needed rest after washing all my clothes blankets towels and rugs. Just got out the shower so i'm feeling super fresh and clean and I can just relax in my room. I feel amazing. My rash has healed a great deal thanks to some herbs I was told to get and I feel really positive about everything. Two people donated from DC and I sincerly want to thank you both and show my deepest appreciation to you! My grandfather also gave his contribution and God is just working it out. My bestie Brit bought me a photo/video camera yesterday and she said its purple! Yay! So now I have a way to take pics at the baby shower, belly cast, baby blessingway, and birth. Everything is just working itself out. Sandy has been my angel at this time planning everything for the shower and beyond, I can't thank her enough, I have to do something special for her. God has put so many amazing supportive people in my circle and I'm full of gratitude! Bout to chill out and do some hw or reading.

Good Night

More Pictures

2009-12-02T18:26:00.000-08:00

Day Eight

2009-12-02T18:02:00.000-08:00

I know I have been horrible with blogging everyday but there has been so much going on that some days it just completely slips my mind. So I believe I briefly mentioned about this rash that i've recently developed on my body. It started on my stomach and in the past couple of days has spread to the back of my legs, back, arms, and hips. I've been told its calld P.U.P.P.S and is harmless to me and the baby but just hurts and itches like hell. I have scabs from scratching lol so i'm to the point of being a lot better at resisting the urge to scratch. Long story short that alone has been keeping me pretty well occupied! Yesterday and Today despite of the itchyness I have been feeling a little better and was able to get a lot acomplished. But honestly i'm just ready to completely feel better. This has just made me focused on seriously being conscious of taking care of my body and dealing with whatever emotional issues I have been holding in. Perfect health and wholeness is the order for my life. I'm believing it and so it is. Besides that I went to pick up some brand new baby clothes today from a friend of mine and my moms named Camille who just had her baby boy 3 weeks ago and I'm so grateful!!! Plus i got to discuss music with her hubby who is a cool guy so that was pretty amazing. I haven't seen Nick in like a week which is wierd but hey I guess we needed the space. And Raerani had her little babygirl yesterday so i'm so stoked to find out how it went. Theres a lot going on in baby land but its all beautiful. My bf Brit who is also expecting is coming over in a bit to hang out and go to the movies, so that should be fun. I feel myself bouncing back and I wouldnt have it any other way.
Love and Light.

Colorful Daisies

2009-11-27T18:15:00.001-08:00

OOh and there are sooo many photos i must post from this past weekend and yesterday so soon as O sends them to me I will!!!But for now this picture represents how I feel:

Day Seven

2009-11-27T18:04:00.000-08:00

It is November 27th the day after thanksgiving and I must say yesterday was amazing. I spent the beginning of my day fellowshipping at Agape and then went to Y's house for dinner with friends and my spiritual family. The food was amazing, nick was there, and this itchy rash on my stomach was the last thing on my mind. lol. I'm just very grateful. I've been back and forth between sheer gratitude and stress for the past two weeks and that just helped me realize I have so much to be grateful for. I had got to a point of thinking omg how am i gonna do this and that and have all the financial needs for taken care of by the time my baby gets here. Then i started thinking girl you you must be crazy why are you paying money to have a birth that could be free and stressing yourself to raise this money whenyou could settle to give birth at the hospital and focus on other things. But the more i snap back to myself the mroe i realize my baby is worth it and if this is how she wants to come into this world, thats how we are doing it. God is my supply and all I need is already here. Its like I know it but sometimes I just need a reminder because looking with these two eyes can be decieving. So anyways I just feel a lot better when it comes to that. I have to relax and let it all go. Surrender.(which is exactly what the song i wrote and sang on sunday was about) So i woke up around 9 am and was nesting majorly today lol I cleaned room top to bottom in my room scrubbed the floors the walls threw out old papers and changed the bed sheets lol then i lit a candle put some relaxing music on and slept some more i woke up feeling really refreshed. Then i talked to my mom for a while and made a list of the things i really need to do in december. And I finished all my hw that is due next week so I can relax the rest of the weekend and possibly start stdying for finals. So everything is perfect, bout to get dressed and eat dinner at souplantation with my mom. Living in gratitude really makes all the difference.=) xoxoxo

Day Six

2009-11-24T20:41:00.000-08:00

I'm home just relaxing. My throat kind of hurts and I'm pretty sleepy. I have a test early in the am so gotta get ready for that. And only one more day til thanksgiving. Whoopee!! I'm excited for that, I love getting together with people I love and what better way to do it than EAT.lol. Speaking of eating let me go see what I can find for dinner. Good night =)

Day Five

2009-11-23T10:56:00.000-08:00

Hello!! Yesterday was amazing... It was youth sunday and we sang a song I wrote at Agape!! It felt so good, just to express the creativity inside of me and do it with my baby in my belly. There is sooo much more to come, I can just feel it. Then after the rev took us to lunch and I really enjoyed myself, just to be out with loved ones in a place surrounded with all this beautiful energy was such a blessing. So today I went to class at eight this morning and I've decided to stay up at the campus a little longer than I normally do on mondays. I might as well catch up on some homework here because if I go home and see my bed, it's a wrap.lol. I've been getting a lot more focused as far as school and performing goes, I've already planned my classes for the next semester. I know I will have to balance everything with the baby but its time to get serious about something. And i must admit it does feel super good to have a plan yet still be open to the highest and greatest good at the same time. I took sooooo many pictures yesterday and will post them soon as the love of my life, Olivia lol, sends them to me. J.O.Y. I love my gurls!!! Well have a beautiful day. OOoooh yeah and we passed out the invites yesterday to the baby shower and I'm so excited, they were practically all gone by the end of third service. I was kind of nervous no one would show up to support me but I let that go and know that all the support I need is already here. Sandy did such a beautiful job on the invitations and I greatly appreciate all that their family is doing for me. I'm just GRATEFUL!!!

Day Four

2009-11-21T09:01:00.000-08:00

Good morning! Sorry I missed two days but there has just been a lot going on. I had a long emotional day on thursday where alot of issues came up for nick and I and the only way to release them was to cry it out for hours. But after that I felt a whole lot better. We went to birthing class and it was just what I needed, then we camped out at his moms house for the night and had a good time. Friday I practically slept in all day at his moms and when we got to my house, we ate watched a show on the internet and by the time he left I was knocked out again. So needless to say I got the much needed rest I had been missing out on. So today is Saturday morning, 9:05 am, and I'm headed to joy ensemble rehearsal in a bit. I drank my power smoothie, ate some oatmeal, now all I have to do is take a vitamin and i'm good to go. The only issue I am having is my stomach is stretching so bad from my belly button out which creates this unbearable itch and nothing is helping. I tried coconut oil, cocoa butter cream, and even vaseline but at this point i'm pretty much lost as to what else to do. I just have to use some self-control and resist the urge to scratch! Yup thats basically it when it comes to me right now. Have a beautiful day!

Day Three

2009-11-18T19:50:00.000-08:00

OKAY, so I'm at Y's right now waiting for nick to pick me and my mom up. Today has been the most amazing day!!! First off I got an ultrasound and got such good pictures of my baby's face she's so adorable. I just can't wait to see and hold her in person. I went to yoga class too which was majorly therapeutic. Chilled with Nick for a while who took me on all my errands I needed to run and now I'm here. We got to work on the babyshower invites and babyblessingway so I feel a great sense of accomplishment right now. God is just working it out. Amen lol. Oh and I cut my hair yesterday and I love it! So snaps to that. I'm just trying to figure out how exactly I wanna handle things next semester with school and the baby but between nick and I, it'll all work out.Good Night=)

Day Two

2009-11-16T19:05:00.000-08:00

What a day! For some odd reason i just feel huge!! Probably because i gained 50 pounds over the course of 8 months but today it just hit me. And it seems like all the clothes that were my comfortable maternity clothes, are now extremely uncomfortable. So I think I'm just gonna relax for the rest of the night. Listen to some music and meditate. My energy is really off and I need to get back centered. Tomorrow is a new day and my babygirl will be here before I know it. I just gotta stay positive!!!
Good Night=)

Day One

2009-11-15T12:15:00.000-08:00

HELLO BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!!!!
IT'S FRINA HERE AND TODAY IS DAY ONE OF BLOGGING MY JOURNEY TO MOTHERHOOD. I AM 19 YEARS OLD AND A MOTHER TO BE. I AM EXPECTING MY BEAUTIFUL BABYGIRL INTO THIS WORLD JANUARY 19 2010. THIS HAS BEEN AN AMAZING, UNEXPECTED JOYRIDE OF UPS AND DOWNS. WHILE I HAVE TWO MONTHS LEFT, EVERYTHING IS SLOWLY WINDING DOWN AND JUST GETTING STARTED AT THE SAME TIME!! MY ORIGINAL PLAN WAS TO HAVE THE BABY IN THE HOSPITAL WITH THE DOCTORS AND MEDICATION AND SO FORTH BUT AS TIME PROGRESSED I REALIZED MORE AND MORE THAT IS NOT HOW MY DAUGHTER WANTS TO COME INTO THE WORLD. SO AS OF NOW I AM HAVING A HOME WATER BIRTH. So MANY BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE ARE GIFTING ME WITH ENOUGH CLOTHES TIL THE BABY IS 3 MONTHS, BASINET, HIGH CHAIR ETC. ALL MY BABY'S NEEDS WILL BE PROVIDED. THE WONDERFUL LADIES AT THE BIRTH SANCTUARY ARE HELPING ME OUT TREMENDOUSLY AND GETTING A NONPROFIT TO MATCH THE AMOUNT OF MONEY I COME UP WITH. SO GOD IS JUST REALLY WORKING IT OUT!!! I DONT HAVE THE MONEY AT THIS TIME BUT I'M WORKING TOWARDS RAISING IT AND ANY OF YOUR FINANCIAL GIFTS WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED. I WILL BE HAVING A BABY BLESSING CEREMONY/ LOVE OFFERING INSTEAD OF A TRADITIONAL BABYSHOWER ON DECEMBER 12. WHERE I GET TOGETHER WITH THE COMMUNITY, EAT, TALK, DO A BLESSING FOR THE BABY AND PEOPLE CAN GIFT WHATEVER THEY CAN TO THE CAUSE. I WILL GIVE EVERYONE MORE INFO ON THAT AS IT COMES TOGETHER, IF YOU CAN NOT MAKE IT YOU ARE MORE THAN WELCOME TO DONATE ON THIS PAGE.

SO YEAH I'M SO VERY EXCITED AND WILL BE KEEPING YOU UPDATED ON ALL THAT IS GOING ON INCLUDING THE BIRTH OF MY BABY! SENDING YOU ALL LOVE AND LIGHT!

FRINA*